How much to care?

Its a tough question for me to answer. I'm clueless. Tonnes of question floods my head each time i care. Questions like: Am i showing enough care and concern? Am i caring too much till he feels the irritated?

The rule is simple and easy but its hard to prescribe the dosage. So many times i asked cos i cared but i can sense the irritant in my question from the answer. Then i start to question myself. Was the question not meant to be? Regrets then come in. Maybe i shouldn't have asked it. But the other side of me will reply. If i didn't ask will that show that i'm not at all concern about his feelings?

I don't want him to feel stress or tired. Happy. Thats the main key word. Sometimes maybe its better off not asking or not showing care. But its difficult to control since u know u care for the person.

I could sense the impact when the incident happened. I asked out of care and concern but i got a little hurt. Maybe i'm just too sensitive. But who won't be sensitive? Everyone is sensitive especially to the person u care alot for.

Its mind boggling. Wanna show concern, but yet dun know the correct dosage. Giving too much irritates. Giving too little, feels empty. So wats the correct dosage?